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The winner of Best Picture at the Academy
Awards in 1983 was “Terms of Endearment”, yet I never watched it before and
even the name of the movie is one I have only heard mention in passing. What I
did learn watching it, was that for all its apparent qualities, this is not a
movie I would seek out and probably one I would not want to watch again. Maybe
I did not miss much all those years.
Aurora Greenway (Shirley MacLaine) is a
woman with one concern in her life: herself. Everybody around her is a concern
for her only as they relate to herself. An episode in the very opening of the
movie is telling. Aurora is concerned her baby girl may not be breathing. Her
husband tries to tell her it is just sleeping. She enters the room, crawls
halfway into the crib, shakes the baby awake so it starts to cry. Then
satisfied the baby is indeed breathing she leaves the room with the baby
crying, unattended.
Aurora is widowed when Emma, her daughter
is still a child and their relationship is the focus of the movie. Emma (Debra
Winger as Emma grows up) becomes a one-person support group for Aurora while
she in turn is smothered by her mother. While Aurora’s sole purpose is her
vanity, Emma is a more complex size. She always has her mother trying to run
her things and so it seems that her fight is to get her own way. She marries
Flap (Jeff Daniels) mostly because her mother does not like him and yet she
remains close to her mother. For both the women, however, my lasting impression
is that they are both very self-centred.
Flap gets a teaching position in Iowa, far
away from Texas and Emma and Flap have three children together, but the pattern
remains. The children learn that they are second, they need to give space to
their mother. Flap, well, he has his work and eventually also an affair there.
The suspicion of such an affair is enough to throw Emma into an affair of her
own.
Meanwhile in Houston, Aurora is courted by
many men, but start seeing her astronaut neighbour Garrett (Jack Nicholson). Garrett
actually challenges her and refuses to be used as a mirror for her which is
actually good for her and whatever improvement there is on Aurora, is largely
due to Garrett.
I realize writing my synopsis that rather
than telling of a plot or a narrative, I am merely trying to make a portrait of
Aurora and Emma and I guess this is what this movie is all about. It wants us
to understand these two people, but the more I learn about them, the more I
come to dislike them. Or rather, I disliked them early on and it never gets
better. No matter where they end, it is mostly about themselves. Tom, Emma and
Flap’s oldest son, is a good image of my dislike. He sees both Aurora and his
mother as failing him, his brother and their father. In Aurora and Emma’s life,
there is simply not room for them.
This is a movie that is very strong on
acting. The sheer number of nominations and wins in the acting categories is a
testament to that. But it is also about people I dislike intensely, so rather
to earn that sympathy the movie wants me to give them, I feel like kicking them
and protect their surroundings from them. I hate to say it, but the “tearjerker”
ending felt to me more like relief.
Obviously, a lot of people like and liked “Terms
of Endearment”. While it is obvious Oscar bait, it also worked amazingly well
at the box office. Whether it is because people really like selfish people or
like to watch annoying people ruin theirs and other people’s lives, I do not
know. Neither really works for me.
I think I can name quite a few movies in
1983 I would rather have winning.